Thursday, July 24, 2008

Roughin' It

Greetings and Salutations,

I went to Montreal last Wednesday evening until Sunday for the Just For Laughs festival. I signed up to attend their first Industry conference. I actually never got around to seeing any shows. The conference was from Thursday to Friday and they had various information sessions.

They also had a session where you could have lunch with a person in the industry along with 3 other people. I had lunch with the VP of Content at Fox. I thought she was nice and cool and enjoyed hearing her talk about her experience at Fox and hearing how she has to listen to pitches and what she's looking for.

I also got to meet Colin Mochrie from Whose Line is it Anyways? I am a fan of his and I saw him twice on the Thursday but didn't have the nerve to go up to him. I saw him again on the Friday and again didn't have the nerve. He was a speaker in one of the sessions about improv and I went up to him afterwards. Ryan Stiles was there, another favourite of mine from WLIIA. I went up to Mochrie and told him I was a fan and that watching the show inspired me to do improv. I asked for his picture and I managed to get a picture with Stiles and Mochrie.

On Saturday the conference organized a ball hockey and basketball game so I signed up for the ball hockey game. It was artists verus industry. I was the only female on my team and the other team had one female as well. We ended up winning but was losing in the beginning. We managed to tie it up and then we kicked ass and won (I think) 18-6. I wanted to score a goal but didn't, although I had a few shots on net.

On Sunday I decided to visit the Canadian Centre of Architecture. I visited Montreal 5 years ago so did some sightseeing then. I managed to get the museum for 15 minutes so I was disappointed because I enjoy looking at architecture things and the interesting designs they come up with. It's kinda like geometry shapes to me and I'm a huge fan of geometric shapes (hence my like of platonic solids).

I enjoyed the stuff they had last time but this time it was crap. They showed some stuff about London and Tokyo and I thought the style they were going for in Tokyo were bland and generic and seeing the style of buildings was too cold for me!
They also showed the design process of the Ontario College of Arts (OCAD) and Design that is in Toronto. I thought the building was hideous and ugly and didn't think it was pretty. I saw some nice buildings in Barcelona that had some artistic merit but this building for the OCAD was vile. And it cost well over 30 million to make!

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I've hit a really important point in my qigong practice. For the past week and a half week I've been either crying during my practice or after my practice. I've also been practising twice a day for about 3 times this week. I decided to not do that too often because there is such a thing as crying too much.

I know that the crying is for my own good because it is a sign that my practice is clearing up blockages. I'm experiencing alot of inner pain but I know it is something I have to go through. The tension in my head is improving as well and the tense spots in my head area are relaxing more and I think that's because I've held onto certain emotions and I'm letting them go through crying.

I'm usually someone that doesn't like to cry and I sometimes will try hard not to show that emotion but over the years I have been becoming comfortable with myself that I let myself be vulnerable and open to pain.

I'm not sure why I am doing all this crying and have so much pain. I haven't had a particularly painful life. One of my personal beliefs is that of reincarnation. As an anthroposophist, Steiner has discussed the concept of reincarnation. I was skeptical about the idea but hearing Steiner's ideas about it made sense to me so it is something that I believe to be true. I think perhaps in some life I must have been wrongly accused and probably persecuted because I feel so much anger towards things and feel a certain desire for justice. I'm hoping eventually things become clearer to me and I hope that this period of my life goes by quickly.

Friday, July 18, 2008

Just For Laughs

Greetings and Salutations,

I've been in Montreal since Wednesday night and am attending the first ever Industry Conference for the Just for Laughs Comedy Festival. The conference was for 2 days and it covered a wide range of topics. I found it boring but I think I learned something. I've been thinking for a while about how I have to be an entrepreneur if I'm going to attempt this comedy thing. I basically have to take whatever ideas I have and do them and make work for myself. I think I have a bit of that spirit in me but I think for the most part I repress it because I never understood the value of comedy.

I think for the most part, I am a funny person and can make jokes and what not but at the same time, I don't get how I do it and I don't really see any value for doing it. I think my brain just gravitates towards seeing the funny in things. I struggle with this ability I have of making jokes and seeing the humour in things because at the same time I want to be normal like everyone else and have a normal job. I've wrestled with the idea of going back to school, I've thought of various jobs I could do but I never liked the idea.

I got to have, along with 3 others, a lunch with the VP of Comedy Content at Fox, Suzanna Makkos. It was just a friendly lunch and there were other important type people that others had lunch with. I enjoyed the lunch and found her to be enjoyable as a person. I think I learned a little about her side of the business.

I also got my picture taken with Ryan Stiles and Colin Mochrie, who I first saw on Whose Line is it Anyways? That show inspired to get into improv and Stiles and Mochrie were my favourite. I saw Mochrie twice yesterday and didn't have the nerve to go up to him to get his picture. He was talking in one of the sessions about improv, along with other people involved in improv and I went up to him afterwards. I only spoke to him for about a minute and I felt rather dorky. I said that I was a fan and that the show inspired me to get into improv. I then asked for a picture.

There was a social cocktail yesterday at the end of the day but I'm not really into that unless I know a few people and I knew no one and I'm usually not comfortable trying to socialize with all those people so I just walked around for a few minutes and left. I can handle meeting new people but when it's a ton of people, I have no idea who to approach and what to start talking about.

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I'm losing interest in the English Muffin. I've been talking to some of my friends about my situation. I really like him but at the same time I don't think he likes me as much as I like him. I feel like lately I'm always bugging him to chat on Skype. I think maybe he really just likes me as a friend. I figure if someone likes you, they make an effort to talk to you and to be with you and I'm just not seeing that in his behaviour.

I in this moment just don't consider him to be a potential boyfriend anymore. I've been on another dating site for a while and have some coffee dates lined up for when I return.

My intention is to find a boyfriend whom I can have a long term relationship that could lead to making babies and getting married (although not in that order). My strategy is to date guys and eventually weed out the ones that I don't think have potential. My old strategy to date one guy at a time just didn't work. It's time guys start convincing me why I should spend my time with them instead of me trying to get the guy to spend time with me.

I'm going to involve myself less (i.e less email, chatting on Skype -which he seems to have helped me with) with the English Muffin. I feel like I'm getting frustrated with things and the best thing for me is to let go and move on. I'll keep him as a friend for now. I can only control myself and since I want a boyfriend, I'll just keep looking until I find one that treats me and give me the attention I deserve.

I don't want to get myself emotionally invested in someone that's not making the same effort as I am.

Another thing that bothers me is that I don't think he's serious about leaving England like he claims. I figure if you are interested in leaving your country, you'd go visit the country that you want to go or make some steps or something.
He said he joined eharmony to make Canadian friends but who the hell makes friends before they move into the country? You should do that when you are actually going to move. It just doesn't make much sense to me.

I don't think I'm that naive but I did genuinely believe he was interested in coming here but I have my doubts now and I am starting to feel like I'm being played, although I don't know what he would get out of playing me.

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Water Experiment

Greetings and Salutations,

I did this water experiment as outlined to me by my qigong instructor, Sifu Cheung. I took this workshop back in October 2007 but began the experiment on December 28 2007. This experiment involves taking some cooked white rice and putting some in an empty water bottle and put a little bit of water in it. One we treat in a loving manner and the other we treat with hate or just ignore it.

I would probably talk to each bottle for about 1 to 2 minutes. I did this more often in the beginning of the experiment, like 2-3 times a week. I used the exact same type of water bottles and would give both bottles equal time. For example, I wouldn't just be talking to the love bottle, I would talk to one first and then the other.

I was quite abusive to the hate bottle and ended up smacking it on the bottom (not to the point of damage). I said things such as "you are stupid", "nobody likes you", "you're fucking worthless", "you'll never amount to anything", and various other hateful and hurtful common expressions.

With my love bottle, I would speak gently to it and say things like "I love you", "you're beautiful" and I would even caress it gently.

I hadn't been doing the experiment too much lately but this week I noticed a very obvious change. I was expecting the rice in the hate bottle to turn brown faster then the love bottle but I was quite surprised to see how distorted and bent out of shape the hate bottle had become.

See for yourself and maybe even try it out for yourself. I hope that we all realize as a society that being hateful towards others is harmful and I feel this experiment demonstrates the impact of being hateful and negative.

Beginning of Experiment: Photos taken December 28, 2007

love and hate bottles in my closet
love bottle closeup of rice
love bottle
hate bottle
hate bottle rice closeup

Photos taken: July 12, 2008

Left is hate bottle, right is love bottle

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Moving Forward by Force

Greetings and salutations,

My small department got notified Monday morning that our company is getting rid of our department. We do outsource work for a cable company and they have decided to not renew the contract they have with us. So our last day is the end of this month.

The company said the only work available was in the call centre and there was only evening work. That wouldn't work for me since I need my evenings free to perform my comedy.

I'm oddly optimistic that things will work out for me. I want to pursue comedy so maybe this will give me the space and time that I need. The only thing is now my mom will worry about me because I am renting out an apartment and not living at home anymore but I think everything will work out.

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Happy Canada Day!

Greetings and Salutations,

Today is Canada Day here in... Canada.

I'm enjoying my day off and am glad to be doing some blogging as it's been awhile.

I thought I'd start out by writing about my thoughts on the increasingly popular trend of cohabitation before marriage. I think I must be one of the few people left in this society who doesn't really agree with cohabitation prior to marriage.

The common reason I typically hear why people say they are living together is that they want to test things out. I believe people need to decide how they want to live their lives and as long as they don't hurt people, I generally accept - although I may not agree with - the life choices they make.

I see living together as some half assed commitment. I thought you test things out by using the good old fashioned method of dating, which should be a minimum of 1 year to get to know someone and their values, habits and outlook on life.

I guess in some situations, living together is sometimes the only logical step. My one friend lived in Hamilton and Yellowknife and had a boyfriend in Yellowknife. She would live in each city for a few months because she was working on her Masters and Yellowknife was where her field of study. I don't know if they were engaged but when she permenantly moved up there, they lived together and then eventually got married.

I had a coworker tell me before her man moved in with her that he lived on his own and took care of things and cleaned up after himself but when they moved in together, he became more sloppy. They are not married but it shows that people can change their behaviour whether they are married or are just living common law with you.

People also argue that if the relationship doesn't work out at least it's easier to end if you're just living together then if you are married. I think this is sort of backwards thinking because I think it indicates someone who doesn't take their relationships seriously and it reveals that they lack the ability to struggle through tough times. If 2 people are in a relationship and it's not working out, it will end anyways and whether you are just living together or are married, it will be difficult to end because we humans are emotional creatures and it will hurt no matter what your living situation is. It may be true that technically and financially it will be easier to end a relationship if you're just living together but either way, it will be hard emotionally.

For me personally I think living together is just wrong. It makes no sense to me and that is probably why I highly doubt I will be someone who lives with someone before marriage. I think if you are going to make the commitment of living with someone for an undetermined amount of time, you might as well just take the big leap of marriage. Go big or go home!

Friday, May 30, 2008

Vacation Update

Greetings and salutations,

Today I am in Paris. I arrived last evening from London. I arrived in London on the 24th and hated my night flight. I couldn't even sleep so I don't know if I will ever take an overnight flight again.

I actually got to meet the English Muffin on Wednesday as he skipped out on work. He took me to Stonehenge and then we went to this town called Bath. We got there late so there wasn't much to do so we wondered around and eventually went to his place.
Where I got none.

Yes that's right folks, the English Muffin didn't want to put out on the first meeting because he wanted to be a 'gentleman' and had some bizarre superstition that if we had sex on the first meeting, the relationship wouldn't work out.

Whatever!

He thinks it's a little weird how direct we Canadian women are about sex. Sex is just like anything else in this world. I don't talk about it all the time but when talking about it, why not just cut to the chase and tell it like it is???

He has some other Canadian female friend who is similar to me about being open to talking about sex but I don't think everyone in Canada is like that.

I liked the subway system better in London and find it more cleaner.

I managed to get hit on on my first night out in London. Usually I go out in the day but this was my first day there and I was so tired from the overnight flight, that I took a nap and decided to hit some bars. I had my nice sexy top that showcased my lovely cleavage. Near the end of my night I had someone approach me and ask me for directions but I said I was lost as well and we started chatting. I think that was just a pick up line. We went to some pub and he bought me a drink. It turns out he is an Italian doctor. A gynecologist specifically. I chuckled when he told me that because that is comedy material right there!!! He says he delivers babies and does examinations. He walked me back to my hostel but not all the way as I didn't want him to know where I was staying.

This of course was all prior to me speaking to the english muffin, who responded to my emails Saturday evening while I was out.

Well I must begin my day of exploring Paris so I will eventually write some more.

Au revoir mon amies!

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Some Stand-up for you...

Greetings all,

I thought I'd post a set I did about 2 months ago at a show in Toronto. It's available at youtube. You can watch me here.

This was a show my roommate and her friend went to see so my roommate was kind enough to videotape my performance so I can critique and learn from myself.

One of my critiques is that I use the word um too much. I'm a little embarassed to be posting this but this is part of the process when evolving as a performer.

Enjoy!

Monday, May 19, 2008

Oy Vey!

Greetings and Salutations,

I'm getting excited about my vacation to England, France and Spain. I haven't really planned anything and I would have done so during this long weekend but I have been super busy, which annoys the crap out of me. I'm going to start preparing tomorrow night.

My roommate is going to England as well for a week 2 days before I leave. She's going to some friend's wedding. I look forward to my vacation, although it will be a little bitter-sweet since I was hoping to meet the English Muffin but I don't think that's going to happen. I never really explained to you my beloved audience what happened between us and I will take a moment to do so.

I was getting frustrated that I hadn't chatted with him for 5 days. Normally we talk a bit more frequently. Not using it as an excuse, but my week was a bit stressful and I was hoping to at least have someone whom I felt would understand some of my stress. Low and behold, I send him a break up email(I referred to him as my potential boyfriend so I wanted to end that). I put some thought into it and wanted to at least stay friends. A couple of days later I realized maybe I was being impulsive so I wanted to at least explain to him on the phone (Skype). He was ignoring me and then I sent an email just explaining myself and still no reply. I was hoping to at least meet up with him for coffee but I haven't heard from him, which saddens and confuses me. However life goes on. I have managed to date one person and so now I am back into this ever so interesting dating process.

I'm going to couchsurf as well. My one friend used the site and had a positive experience. It works similar to ebay in that people do leave feedback so at least you can find out if this person is decent. They have an address verification process as well. I might hostel as well but I want to try out this couchsurfing thing.

My parents gave me some Euro dollars and I'll have to get some Pounds as well this week. I hope I can get myself organized soon. I'm not going to plan everything but need a beginning planned. I'm also wondering if I should rent a car for a few days here and there. I plan to stay in London for a couple of days and Paris as well.

I'm nervous and excited!
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I'm starting to refer to myself now as a Tempermental Artist. I think I'm over this being a nerd and then becoming a Diva while still thinking I'm a nerd. I like this idea of being a Tempermental Artist. I used to dislike the term 'artist'. I heard some young woman refer to herself as that and I thought how stupid and wussy it sounds but the more I thought about it, the more I realized I am an artist. I like to write and think of jokes and funny things. I create therefore I am an artist. And I am a perfectionist in certain parts of my life. In fact I don't think the word perfectionist is accurate. I am a precisionist. I like to be precise about things and when it comes to my art, my comedy, I am a precisionist which is why I can be tempermental and fussy about certain things.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Yucky

Greetings and Salutations,

I am doing some videos for youtube and am forced to hear the sound of my voice. In my head I don't sound so bad but when I hear myself in reality, it saddens me and repulses me that I could have such an awful voice.

What bothers me the most is when my voice gets too high and it sounds whiny. Going over my tape, I don't think I sound whiny when I speak but sometimes it does.

And I hate looking at myself. Sometimes I think I look alright and other times I think I look weird.

Blah its moments like this where I wish I was someone else and looked and sounded better!

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Predictable Sundays

Greetings and Salutations,

Every Sunday my brothers come over to visit my parents and we have a family dinner. Now that I've moved out I don't have to stop by every Sunday. I can tell you, however, that even if I am not showing up for the family dinner on Sunday, I can predict exactly what will happen.

I have 3 brothers, Rob, Tony and Louie. Tony and Louie are twins and they have a mental illness, schizoprenia. Rob is the oldest and he is not the smart one in the family.

Here is what typically happens on a Sunday at my parents. My mom will begin cooking the home cooked meal around 2 or 3 pm. My brothers usually show up at around 1.30. Tony generally arrives first and is around by 1.15. He usually goes to pet the family cat Sally, who will hiss at him because she only grew up with Rob, my parents and myself so she fails to recognize that my other brothers are also part of the family. Then Louie will arrive and then they both go out to Tim Horton's to get a coffee together.

When they return they will talk about the various people in their boarding homes and share stories about how dysfunctional the people in their homes behave.

Meanwhile my dad is either watching tv or sleeping on the sofa. Either way he is lying down on the couch.

Now that my parents bought a new computer, my mother will ask me to take a look at the computer or ask me various questions. I am now the family computer expert simply because I know how to use a computer, although I really have little expertise in computers.

I usually read the newspaper from the week or be on the computer and Tony will come right up to me, place his hand on my shoulder and violate my personal space by putting his face about 2 inches from mine. I will tell him to leave me alone. He apologizes but will do the same thing next week. Several times during his visit, Tony will turn on the radio and leave the room. I usually shut it, only to have him come back and turn it on.

At some point in the afternoon, Tony and Louie will wrestle each other standing up in the hallway. I yell to my mother to tell them to stop. My mother tells them in her typical submissive fashion to "please stop you'll ruin the walls".

My other brother Rob arrives around 4 and usually arrives after going to the gym. We eat at 4.30. Louie laughs during dinner for no reason. I ask what's so funny and I can never get a straight answer. I scowl and wonder why I was brought into this family. Rob is quiet and you can sense the tension between Rob and my dad.

Rob will share some useless facts during dinner in order to prove that he is intelligent although it just reinforces the fact that he isn't that bright. He would appear smarter if he didn't try so hard.

After dinner, my brothers all retreat to the basement, where Rob typically watches tv and my other brothers discuss various things and frequently discuss the behaviour of people and how little sense it makes. Louie will remark at some point "This life is a laugh".

So folks, that's basically what happens at my parent's house every Sunday. I could stop going for months and the behaviours I've just described will occur.

Friday, May 02, 2008

Evil from an Anthroposophical Perspective - Part 5: My Personal Experiences with Evil

I have had some personal experiences with evil. I have always believed that humans need to explore their dark side and not repress it. I believed that in repressing our dark nature, we would be making the situation worse. I felt that embracing it would allow us to gain something useful.

I had undergone trials of evil. I have checked my journal entries and the dates of my trials of evil are February 17, March 28, August 20 2002 and April 14, 2003. During these trials of evil, I experienced pure evil, a pure egoism in my thinking and in my feeling. It did not affect my will. I am not sure exactly what allowed me to have these experiences. I think I wanted to experience pure evil and I believe it was possible the spiritual world felt I was mature enough to handle these trials. I was able to live in it and let it work through me but at the same time it did not take a hold of me. Having this experience was extremely pleasurable. It felt good and made me feel good having this evil run through me.

I would feel this cruelty and coldness. I felt destructiveness and wanted to torture people. During my last experience, I felt a destructive darkness. It made me feel powerful. When I accepted this feeling, it seemed to go away. I began to realize the superficial power of evil.

I believe that if we deny our capacity for evil, we can never be truly human. I feel that in admitting our capacity for error, we become more human.

Another personal experience I had was in the summer of 2004. I went out with someone for a drink. I would spend time chatting, observing the person and observing my surroundings. When I was observing this person, I suddenly felt this wave of evil coming from his eye region. He was not talking about anything negative; it was just a regular conversation. For a couple of weeks, I first began questioning if that was my own evil reflecting back but I got the feeling that it was not and I realized that it was this person’s evil. I do not feel this person is absolute evil. I do not believe that a human can be pure evil. This person may have been 98% good and I accidentally discovered the 2% evil.

I do not look upon this person with hatred or fear. I feel compassionate for this person. I think this person can transform this evil with some inner effort.

References

Movie
The Corporation

Scott Peck
People of the Lie

Rudolf Steiner
The Ahrimanic Deception - lecture
The Apocalypse of St. John - 12 lectures from June 17 – 30 1908
The Concepts of Original Sin and Grace - lecture
The Deed of Christ and the Opposing Spiritual Powers – lecture
Evil – a collection of lectures
How to Know Higher Worlds
The Reappearance of Christ in the Etheric – a collection of lectures

Peter Tradowsky
Christ and Antichrist: Understanding the events at the end of the century and recognizing our task

Monday, April 28, 2008

Evil from an Anthroposophical Perspective - Part 4: The Transformation of Evil

I believe half the battle in transforming evil lies in becoming aware of it and to be willing to acknowledge its existence. Sometimes evil works subtly and quietly in individuals and in our social, economical, political and educational institutes. It is important to realize that dealing with evil is an ongoing process.

In our movie and story telling culture, one evil being is presented and then is defeated. In reality we have multiple evil beings to deal with. We are continuously working with them and it is not a question of destroying them but how to use them effectively.

In How to Know Higher Worlds, Steiner informs the spiritual student, “In every evil, we must seek out the elements that allow us to transform it into good. We will then see more and more clearly that the best way to combat wickedness and imperfection is to create what is good and whole. We cannot create something out of nothing, but we can transform what is incomplete into something more perfect. The more we strengthen our creative tendencies, the sooner we will find ourselves capable of the right attitude toward whatever is bad and imperfect.” (pg 104).

I believe the solution to evil can be found within itself. We must not view evil as bad. We must look within it to see how we can transform it. We must not run away from it nor seek to destroy it. We must confront the evil within us first and by accepting and transforming our own evil and egoism, we can meet evil around us with the same love and compassion we created for ourselves.

He continues to inform the spiritual student about 2 Guardians. One of our most important spiritual experiences is with the First Guardian of the Threshold. This guardian is an astral entity and it is the collection of all of our past errors and fears. Because it is such a horrible sight, we must have developed enough inner strength to perceive it. This being reveals to us the corrections we must make in life.

Steiner also discusses the Greater Guardian of the Threshold. This meeting involves choosing the black path or the white path.
“You have freed yourself from the world of the sense. You have earned the right of citizenship in the supersensible world. From now on, you may work from there. For yourself, you no longer need your physical bodily nature in its present form. If all you wanted was to acquire the capacity to dwell in the supersensible world, you would never need to return to the world of the senses. Look at me. See how immeasurably I am raised above all that you have already made of yourself up to now. You have reached your present stage of completion by means of faculties that you were able to develop in the sense world while you were still dependent upon it. Now you are entering a time when the powers you liberated must continue to work upon this sense world. Until now, you have worked only to free yourself, but now that you are free, you can help free all your fellow beings in the sense world. Up to now, you have striven as an individual. Now you must join yourself to the whole, so that you may bring with you into the supersensible realm not only yourself, but also all else that exists in the sensible world.

Some day, you will be able to unite with my form, but I myself cannot find perfect blessedness as long as there are others who are still unfortunate! As a single, liberated individual, you could enter the realm of the supersensible today. But then you would have to look down upon those sentient beings who are not yet freed. You would have separated your destiny from theirs. But you are linked together with all sentient beings. All of you had to descend into the world of the senses to draw from it the powers required for a higher world. Were you to separate yourself from your fellow beings, you would misuse the powers you were able to develop only in consort with them. If they had not descended into the sense world, you would not have been able to descend either. Without them, you would lack the powers you need for supersensible existence. You must share with the others the powers that you achieved with them.

Therefore I refuse to admit you to the highest regions of the supersensible world until you have used all your powers for the deliverance of your fellow world and fellow beings. What you have already achieved entitles you to dwell in the lower regions of the supersensible world. But I will stand at the doorway to the higher regions “like the cherubim with the flaming sword before the gates of Paradise.” I will deny you entry as long as you still have powers that you have not put to use in the sense world.

If you do not use your own powers, others will come who will put them to use. Then a high supersensible world will incorporate all the fruits of the sensible realm, but the ground you will stand on will be pulled out from under your feet. The purified world will develop over and beyond you. You will be excluded from it. If this is your choice, then yours is the black path. But those from whom you separate yourself tread the white path.”

It is in this meeting of the Second Guardian that we experience our greatest temptation. The black path is choosing the path where we are only concerned with our inner salvation. On the black path nothing that our egotism desires is denied us. The fruit of this path is the complete satisfaction of egotism.

The white path is choosing the path where we are concerned with liberating all of humanity and ourselves. This includes people who have hurt us or do not understand us or annoy us. Taking the white path does not appeal to our egoism. When we have this meeting with the Greater Guardian and have chosen the white path we will realize that the black path leads us nowhere. It is the white path that allows us to be creative and loving.

The task of confronting evil will enable us to not only to liberate ourselves but also to contribute to the liberating of the human race. We can offer our gifts and talents to the sacrificial altar of humanity.
Greetings and Salutations,

I booked my tickets to London last Monday. I am leaving on May 23rd in the evening and arrive in London on May 24 at 10 am (Saturday). I wanted to fly out of Spain but it was a bit more so I decided to journey back to London after I've visted France and Spain.

I bought a backpack from the Rick Steeves web site as he is a travel writer and had some traveling gear. I think I'll have fun.

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Well I'm sure I've frighten some people away with my essay about Evil. It is pretty advanced material that I am covering and it is more geared for those who are anthroposophists and I am not too sure how many out are reading my blog!
If you were more familiar with basic anthroposophical concepts, then my essay might be more interesting.

There's only 2 more sections I cover I believe so bear with me.

Friday, April 25, 2008

Evil from an Anthroposophical Perspective - Part 3: Evil Spiritual Beings

According to the Anthroposophical perspective, there are several evil beings that humans have to deal with. This was allowed by a divine wisdom for the sake of freedom. It is necessary to know that it was the beings of light, the divine wisdom that allowed these counterforces to work in humans.

The first tempters for humans are known as Luciferic beings and they affected our astral body during the Moon stage, prior to our receiving an I. This is known as Original Sin or The Fall as we had inherited sin from Lucifer and had fallen into sin. The influence of Lucifer is implanted in our astral body. Luciferic beings are retarded or backward Angels.

Another type of evil beings are the Ahrimanic beings. They are retarded or backward Archangels. They influence our etheric body.

If we imagine a threefold cosmic stream, Lucifer would work from the surconscious and Ahriman from the subconscious.
These two beings are usually compared against each other in order to understand them.

Lucifer
Allows people to form hypothesis, build up imaginative pictures, have ideas
Art is an example where this force is vital
Not interested in people
Allows us to soar above our actual circumstances, looking at the world from an aerial perspective
Works in time
Body: Softening, Rejuvenation
Soul: Fantasy, Dreaming,Mysticism
Spirit: Falling Asleep
Illusion: Spirit arises out of matter
Countermeasure: Illness, Suffering, Pain

Ahriman

Down in the dumps lonely spirit who doesn’t readily make his presence known
Responsible for technology
Wants world power, lusts for power, tries to rule over others by using and manipulating their weaknesses
Works in space
Body: Hardening, Calcification
Soul: Pedantry, Philistinism,Materialism
Spirit: Waking Up
Illusion: Forces of physical world permeate soul or physical world is only reality
Countermeasure: Karma

In 8000 BC people were in danger of being too Luciferic. Education was not important as it is today and school was more for scholars. Aim was to reign people’s powers of fantasy. Education today has taken an Ahrimanic direction. Science is excessively ahrimanic for it takes only the physical world into consideration.

Lucifer incarnated around 3000 BC in Asia. Ahriman will incarnate in the West around 2000 - 3000 AD. These beings prepare a long time for their incarnation. The Ahrimanic influence began in the 15th century. Ahriman wants people to believe in material science and not to realize the limitations that it has. The gifts that we have received from science are truths but are not absolute truths. The materialistic science merely presents one side of reality.

Ahriman will also try to stir up the emotions that will make humans go against each other and divide into smaller groups, groups that attack each other. He does this through the intellect because with our intellect we can prove or disprove any argument based on logic. Our intellect has limitations however Ahriman wants us to believe that our intellect is our source of knowledge. For example, by using our intellect and logic, we can prove spiritualism exists and that materialism exists as well.

In The Fall of the Spirits of Darkness, Steiner talks about the spiritual war that lasted from 1841 to 1879. A spiritual fact is that events that occur on earth are prepared first in the spiritual world. Steiner says the mirror image of this war can be found in World War I. The Ahrimanic beings were cast out of the spiritual realm into the physical. When they are in the spiritual world they are more likely to leave humans alone and so their being cast down allows them to influence humans more. This type of battle has occurred numerous times over various issues.

Ahriman’s field of activity is in our thinking and will impulses. They thrive under our prejudices, ignorance of reality and our fear of spirit. Ahriman basically wants people to deny the reality of the spiritual world and so he works through us in our thinking by making us only believe in the physical world. It is a law of the universe that what science observes is only the past. It is the spiritual world that points to the future. By only observing the past, Ahrimanic beings essentially are denying us our creativity, hope and the ability to find solutions to problems.

Another evil being is known as the Asuras. They are retarded Archai. The Asuras tear out fragments of the I and consciousness soul and bind them with the earth. The fragments they take are lost forever. At this point there is no countermeasure for the lost I fragments. The Asuras also deceive humans into thinking their I is merely a product of the physical world. They want people to live completely in the physical world and to be oblivious to the reality of spiritual beings. They want us to believe that we are merely sophisticated animals and have descended from them. Our morals are only channeled animal impulses. The Asuras will lead humans to live like animals and to only have interest In animalistic type passions and impulses.

One important evil being is called Sorath who is also known as the Antichrist, Sun-Demon or Two-horned Beast. Sorath is directly opposed to the Christ principle. Humans cannot be the adversary of Christ, they can only let the opportunity slip away.

Christ made his appearance in the etheric body of the world between 1930 and 1940. Christ is a being that allows the individuals to lift themselves into the spiritual world so that we are not lost to materialism. Christ has performed many sacrifices for humans enabling us to become more selfless. For example he has worked on our sense organs to make them selfless and concerned with the whole. (See Four Sacrifices of Christ lecture)

Christ brought humanity karma and allowed us to fix the errors we commit. If one chooses to have Christ work within them, this power redeems himself and the Luciferic beings. (See: The Deed of Christ and the Opposing Spiritual Powers)
I believe that all 4 beings can be redeemed when we allow the Christ to work within us.

Sorath is generally not concerned with the earthly realm. He only becomes interested in earth when it becomes possible for him to gain rulership. This occurs in specific conditions, namely when Christ descends to Earth. He wants to lead people into evil and to sink into the abyss. He is the tempter to Black Magic, which is the misuse of spiritual forces for purely egotistical purposes.

Steiner did not live on earth to experience the second appearance of Christ, however other Anthroposophical writers believe that Sorath made his appearance during World War II.

According to Peter Tradowsky who wrote Christ and Antichrist, Hitler was possessed by Sorath. Sorath wants to make himself God and he typically does so by pretending to be the Christ. Tradowsky has done some historical research on Hitler and here are some interesting findings:
Hitler was quoted to say “The work begun by Christ, I will bring to a conclusion.”
During a 1932 election campaign, he used an airplane and flew over Germany creating a Messianic image.

During WWI one of Hitler’s generals did not think he would make a good leader and he seemed quite aloof. Hitler did end up becoming a charismatic leader and had the power to eliminate or paralyze the thinking capacity of others through his eyes. Sorath makes use of both Ahriman and Lucifer. An example of this can be seen in Hitler’s style of speech, which is a mixture of fanaticism and reasonableness.

Other major world events that occurred in the 1930s include The Great Depression from 1929 to 1933. The Great Purge in Russia that involved Joseph Stalin was from 1929 to 1939. World War II was from 1939 to 1945. It is possible that all 4 beings worked together and created conditions that would make it difficult for people to experience the Second Coming of Christ. I believe that attacking humans economically first would make it easier for humans to be influenced politically.

In Apocalypse of St. John, Steiner informs the reader about the War of All against All. We are currently in 5th epoch, in the 5th cultural epoch. This war is set to occur in the 7th cultural epoch, which will occur in approximately 4000 years. The ego has a dual nature. It gives man independence and freedom and also self-centeredness. The ego needs to be independent and free so that out of its own inner volition, it chooses to offer love to God and others. If the ego does not discover love, it hardens within itself and enters the abyss. Because we have been given I-consciousness, we can rise to the highest of ideals or sink to the lowest. This war will involve those who have taken the Christ impulse, the impulse of love against those who have chosen not to, the Sorath impulse. The foundation of this war is the increase of egoism, of the desire to only serve oneself. It will become evident that humanity has split itself into 2 races, the evil and the good. Those who do not take up this impulse will be rescued after this War by the good stream.

This type of war will repeat itself throughout our earthly evolution.

When I mention this concept of evil beings to people, many people believe that in saying there is a devil or evil being is an excuse for immoral behaviour. In my research into these 4 adversarial beings, I never got the impression that they were responsible for the errors and evils humans commit. I think humans are responsible for how they relate to these beings. We are all influenced in ways we may not realize and I believe if we allow these beings to influence us in a negative way, it is our fault. These adversarial forces were introduced by the good cosmic stream so that we can choose between good and evil and act in freedom.

I have no direct experience of these 4 beings, Lucifer, Ahriman, Asuras and Sorath. I still struggle with trying to see how they work in our world. I would like to have a direct experience, as merely understanding them theoretically is not enough. I think the concept of adversarial forces working in the world is challenging for people of today to understand.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Evil from an Anthroposophical Perspective - Part 2: Some Insights on the Nature of Evil

Evil manifests itself in an individual and can manifest itself in groups and institutions. Evil that is manifested in groups is known as collective evil. Examples of Group evil can arise in a social group of friends (say of 5 people), the army, schools and the media.

Typically when evil arises in a group, it ends up becoming its own entity and taking a life of its own. The group manifests something that is not of them but is a result of their working together. One movie that illustrates the nature of group evil can be found in The Corporation, which is a documentary that shows how the majority of corporations running today possess sociopathic tendencies because they only care about pleasing the shareholders and making a profit. They do not care about laying people off and that they are destructive to the environment. Corporations become like narcisstic children who can only think of their own interests when they choose to think of only their only needs.

In these types of situations, no one person is to blame, due to specialization. Specialization has allowed for evil to flourish as it allows people to pass responsibility onto another department.

Evil grows because it seeks an environment that is receptive to it. Group evil flourishes when individuals stop thinking for themselves and submit themselves to the will of the group. The group as a result takes on a mind of its own and it allows people to do things they normally would not do on their own.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Becoming an Anthroposophist: a brief explanation of my journey

My study group has read many anthroposophical books by Rudolf Steiner. One we read a while ago a book called Anthroposophical Leading Thoughts. This book basically is a series of letters Steiner writes for those in the Anthroposophical Society and for more advanced students. My favourite part of the book was the first paragraph as I feel for me, it states to me what anthroposophy means to me. I'll include the paragraph below.

"Anthroposophy is a path of knowledge, to guide the Spiritual in the human being to the Spiritual in the universe. It arises in man as a need of the heart, of the life of feeling; and it can be justified only inasmuch as it can satisfy this inner need. He alone can acknowledge Anthroposophy, who finds in it what he himself in his own inner life feels impelled to seek. Hence only they can be anthroposophists who feel certain questions on the nature of man and the universe as an elemental need of life, just as one feels hunger and thirst."

I'm sure this quote may be misinterpreted but to me this quote really summarizes what draws me to anthroposophy. I felt a great need for spiritual ideas early in my life. By the time I was 20, I was dying spiritually inside. I was experiencing an existential crisis. I was introduced to anthroposphy by my first boyfriend, who actually denied to several people that I was even his girlfriend. My first love, who also tormented my soul, led me to one man's body of work who had such a huge influence in my life. His father was a reader of Steiner and my boyfriend suggested that I look into it. I took out 3 books from the public library and the first 2 books I read of his, I thought were completely stupid and I did not get it. It wasn't until I read the third book, Theosophy, that I understood and enjoyed what he was writing about.

I started reading Steiner around July 1999. I finished my first year of university that year and was quite lost internally. I was working at Stelco (a steel factory) for the summer and I would read Steiner during my shift as I was a tester and there was about 15 minutes in between tests. Some of his ideas may be perceived as unusual but when I read him, I understand many of his ideas and I 'intuitively' understood them. I don't understand how I could understand these ideas but they just made sense to me. I've always questioned why I had this compulsion to read his work. In my early 20s I yearned to just be normal like everyone else my age. I just wanted to be getting drunk every weekend and having mindless sex. I didn't want to be so concerned about life and the deeper questions of life. Why couldn't I be shallow and mindless?

My study group is comprised of people over 40. The only other young person there who is around my age moved out of town a few years ago although he does join us for social activities like when we have a dinner or potluck. I think he has the same experience in reading as I do, in that he intuitively understands the content.

I feel unique because of my intense need for spirituality and I certainly do not want to believe that I am the only one who feels this intense need. It was nice to have him around as it's nice to talk to someone in your age group.

I've looked into other spiritual philosophies and religious ideas but I always find myself finding deep spiritual nourishment in anthroposophy.
Spiritual hunger.
Where does it come from?

I've met some people who I thought were nice people but they didn't believe in a spiritual world. While the people may be kind and compassionate, I just don't understand how such evolved people could deny this. While I myself have questioned the existence of a spiritual world, as any seeker would, I really believe that the material world as we see it, is just one part of reality.

In my study group, we have had discussions about how anthroposophy is a need of one's heart. I can't force someone to study it because it has to be something that comes from within you. We all have needs in our hearts and we can't force our personal agendas onto people's hearts.

A Steiner quote

"People go through the world with far more hatred than they think - far more antipathy at least. It is a fact of life: hatred gives satisfaction to the soul, and for this reason, as a rule, it is not at first experienced in consciousness. It is eclipsed by the satisfaction it gives."


Rudolf Steiner Karmic Relationships Volume 1

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Evil from an Anthroposophical Perspective - Part 1: The Origins of Evil

Greetings all,

I have decided to publish my essay that I wrote back in 2005 when I took the Foundation Studies course at the Rudolf Steiner Centre.
I decided to research Steiner's works on Evil as I find evil a fascinating topic because if one truly wants to live ethically and morally in this life, we must face evil with courage and we must examine it deeply to understand its true nature.

My entire essay is 11 pages so I will break it down in several pieces. Steiner's philosophy is based on his experiences of being able to perceive spiritual realities and that includes things such as angels or the dead. You may not believe in these things but please read and be open to the possibility. This can be an exercise to train one's thinking.

Enjoy!

The Origins of Evil

Evil has always been an important spiritual and philosophical topic for humans. I will briefly introduce some views on how people try to make sense of evil and its origin.

I will begin with the view of evil by the Stoics, a group of 4th and 3rd century B.C. of Greek philosophers who base their views on the teachings of Socrates and Plato. They tried to figure how one should live in the world and the came up with the Ideal concept of the Wise Man, one who has managed to conquer their emotions and passions. They believed that the ego needed clarity in the world but was clouded by their emotions and passions and so it was necessary to overcome this. They also believed that humans were free to choose this Ideal. They could choose to descend into a lower realm where they would let their emotions and passions run freely.

Saint Augustine believed that evil and wrongdoing did not exist but were negations or absence of good. He believed finite beings had weaknesses and could not continually do good deeds. As a result of this failure, good is limited and whatever is remaining, i.e. the shadow side is simply the absence of good. This view is simplistic because it is like saying coldness is simply the absence of warmth.

A common view on the origin of evil is that because humans live in matter, this creates a hindrance for the human spirit. The source of evil is the immersion of spirit in matter. Neo-Platonist, Plotinus, believed this.

Japanese philosopher Nakae Toju who lived in 17th century had a similar view. He saw the world as duality. Ri, was a realm of spirit and Ki was a realm of physical nature. Humans have both aspects and due to the combination of these two realms, human will and desires emerges. This creates the potential for evil.

Jacob Boehme believed that in order to become self aware, divine beings needed to encounter opposition. For example, when we wake up in the morning we become aware of ourselves by encountering objects in the physical world. He believes other beings cannot give us this opposition and that we have to be our own adversary and set boundaries within ourselves by creating this opposite.

Herman Lotze was a 19th century philosopher. For Lotze, the reality of evil in ourselves and in the world could not be denied. He believed that evil represents a threshold to our powers of perception. He rejected Leibniz’s idea that although much evil exists, this was the best possible world. Lotze argued that we could not claim God to be omnipotent if we attribute evil and wrong doing to a divine source and by doing so we would limit God’s omnipotence. Lotze’s conclusion was that the existence of good and evil must be due to a divine wisdom that we cannot fathom and which we are not capable of perceiving. He transfers our understanding of evil and wrong into an unknown and inaccessible world of wisdom.

For Steiner, the basic characteristic of the evil emanating from humans is egotism (selfishness). From the smallest oversight to the most horrible of crimes, egotism is the fundamental trait. We cannot seek the origin of evil in actions and deeds but must look upon the underlying tendencies.

There is a paradox that arises. When one prepares to enter the spiritual worlds, the forces that lead to egotism must be strengthened. If we only lived in the spirit world, we would only be able to develop inner capacities. It is only in the physical world where we develop morality and altruism. In the physical world we find the conditions to overcome this egotism. Our soul appears as a duality of spirit and matter. When it is the spiritual world, it must focus on itself and develop its inner strength and capacities whereas on earth it must learn to grow out of and beyond itself and unfold the capacities it developed in the spiritual world, so that it can be of significance and worth for the world.

For us this means that we must not transfer something that belongs in one world to another. Essentially everything has its place in the world and evil can arise when we take it out from where it belongs. Something good can become evil if it is being misapplied.

Another paradox is that when ascending into the spiritual world, we must penetrate it without egotism yet we must penetrate it with egotism.

The origin of evil is our higher nature. We have a potential for evil because we are spiritual beings.

Qualities such as cruelty and malice in the physical world, if withdrawn and applied to the spiritual world can become qualities that advance and perfect us.

It is our egotism that is responsible for how we apply these qualities. We can use them for productive and helpful reasons or for more destructive purposes, depending on how much egotism lives in us.

It is for this reason that philosophers like Lotze believe that our understanding of evil is inaccessible. His perceptual faculties are not prepared to perceive the spiritual world and evil cannot be explained in physical terms since is it a misuse of forces that are of the spiritual world. Any philosopher who disregards the world of spirit is unable to trace the origin of evil.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Viva la France!

Greetings and salutations,

I am officially going to England, France and Spain on May 23 or 24. I booked 2 weeks off work. I haven't booked the flight yet but will wait last minute. I am hoping to leave on Friday night so that I can arrive Saturday morning. I will be backpacking across the 3 countries. I will start out in England and leave from Spain. I want to see Stonehedge and visit London. In France, I want to see crypts and catacombs and I think I'll spend lots of time in Paris getting cultured. I also want to check out Normandy. In Spain, I don't have anything that I feel I need to see. I do want to go Barcelona and Madrid.

I have this feeling that I'll probably enjoy being in Paris. I am more interested in experiencing the different culture and atmosphere of these countries.

I think I will also try and get some International Dick as well. As much as I've enjoyed being pleasured by the Canadian stock, it is time to get some international lovin' and to show other nations how wonderful Canadian women are.

I'm also no longer with my English Muffin so my goal now is to bed a man in each country I visit. In theory I can do this, however, since I am super picky, I may have a hard time finding someone who I would be willing to bed.

I'm happy that I get to travel. Going away last year made me realize how much I've denied myself the pleasure of travel and so now I plan to see more of the world.

* * *

I had mentioned that I am no longer with my English Muffin and unfortunately it did not work out for reasons I shall not disclose at this time. Although technically he was not my official boyfriend, we were still allowed to see other people since we never actually met. I did go on a couple of dates with a couple of guys but it didn't work out so now I am back to searching full-time for a new boyfriend.

I'm not really worried because I'm sure I'll find someone whom I can settle down with. I'm surprised I haven't been snatched up because I really think I am a great catch. I'm easy to get along with and am smart, funny and nice. It is true that I am a bit of an eccentric, but that's what makes me more interesting.

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I found out one of my plants has mealy bugs. It looked like there was this white fungus on it and I did see some insects but apparently they secret this honeydew and now my plant seems to be dying. I bought some spray and sprayed the plant last night. The bugs are on the underside of the leaf so it'll be a bit more difficult to get to it. I am hoping I can save it because it is turning brown on some leaves.

I only have 3 other plants but they are spread out in my apartment so they probably won't get infected. The plant only cost me $13 but I want to try to save it. I think it is possible since some leaves still look decent.

Evil mealy bugs, you have met your match!

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Intuition

Greetings and Salutations,

Today I had a really intuitive/psychic moment. I have been buying the Tim Horton's medium hot chocolate lately so that I can play their Roll Up the Rim to win game (which I haven't won yet and I am rather bitter about). Normally they cost $1.23 but today when I was originally thinking about just bringing to Tim's (I work in the mall and they have a Tim's) the $1.23 in change, but after some thought, I decided that maybe I should bring my wallet because I had this odd feeling that the price went up.
So when I went down to get my medium hot chocolate, the price actually did go up 5 cents and cost me $1.28.

I didn't win at the Roll up the Rim contest but I was happy that I had this intuitive moment.

I sometimes have trouble listening to my intuition because sometimes my emotions get the better of me. Whether it is my fear or anger or my doubting things, I'll sometimes just not grasp the various intuitions I get.

I admit that I don't listen to things when I should be.

I don't know if it's because I don't trust myself sometimes but I do try and listen to it. Sadly there are many things that get in the way of me hearing things clearly but I do work on keeping my intuitive channel clear through my meditation and qigong practice.

Thursday, April 03, 2008

I'm Busy

Greetings and Salutations,

One of the common expressions that I loathe to hear from people is the expression "I'm busy" or "I've been busy" or "I'm too busy". I find people will use that as an excuse for their own laziness or the fact that maybe they just don't care about people and can't be bothered to make the effort to communicate with them or because they don't have the courage to admit that they don't want to do various activities or are trying to avoid people and/or things.
I remember my first boyfriend after a while started saying that to me and it always bothered me. He could have just told me that he wasn't interested in me anymore and break up with me but he kept stringing me along. I don't believe anyone can ever be too busy. I believe that you "make time". It doesn't take long to tell someone that you miss them or that you care about them. With the technology we have today, you can send someone a simple email and it will only take a minute.
Are you that important that you can't even spare one minute of your day to tell someone that you care about them or miss them?

I will never use the expression "I'm too busy" because I believe that I make time for things. I am like everyone else in that I only have 24 hours a day but I spend them wisely and I get shit done. I have wasted time in my life but I do try to live my life as efficiently as possible. I also manage to have lots of fun in my life. I manage to exercise and meditate and eat right and maintain a full time job.

I believe people perceive themself as busy because they don't know how to manage stress and stress creates the perception of busyness. People as well make themself feel busy so that they don't actually have to deal with their own personal issues. There really is no excuse for neglecting your friendships and relationships because you are too busy.

I bring up this topic because I am tired of hearing people use it. Life is precious and the people in your life are precious. Why can't you just demonstrate basic common courtesy instead of being so self absorbed and so selfish? Everyone in this life is busy to some degree.

Monday, March 31, 2008

Somewhat Rational

Greetings and Salutations,

Okay so my previous post was rather melancholic but I'm such a moody person I end up feeling other moods quickly.

I do have a melancholic tendency which has its pros and cons. The main con being is that I'm like totally an emo type personality but due to my somewhat stubborn nature, I will not even admit that I am a bit emo and at least in this blog I am admitting to it.

Yes everything can seem so awful and impossible to overcome.
And hopeless.

The only pro about being a melancholic person is that I am sensitive to things and can feel the pain of others and imagine their suffering.

Anyways, I hate talking about myself so much on a personal level.

* * *

I have managed to do 3 more open mic stand up shows this month and it reminds me how much I am meant to be on stage. I sometimes deny myself pleasure possible due to lack of confidence but I at least feel happier that I am working towards something that I enjoy. That I can believe in. I'm tired of working for 'the man'. I want to be my own boss and be the master of my own destiny.

I feel like such an idiot sometimes. I feel like I've wasted so much time but I try not to think about it too much and just focus on what I need to do.

Feeling like an idiot is a good thing because at least it is making me feel some humbleness and making me realize I may not have been thinking as clearly as I thought I was.

Fuck I have issues.

* * *

I am still talking with my English Muffin and I plan on doing my Europe trip in May (England France and Spain). I've been talking with him for 3 months and I am hopelessly insane. I sometimes feel like I can never be in a happy relationship. I'm insane. I'm eccentric. I'm unpredictable. Who would want me?

I'm needy. I'm high maintenance. I need constant assurance. I need to have sex fairly regularly. I'm demanding.

I can't be in a relationship with someone. I'll drive them away with my unrelenting obsessive nature.

Fuck I have issues.

* * *

I've had a few people tell me that I am brave for trying stand up. I say no fucking way. I get up and I want them to like. It's like being on a first date every fucking show that you do. Oh my god am I too weird, do they like me, do I look too intimidating or ugly, what if they misunderstand what I say.

And then at some point, you get over that.

But then it comes back when you do another show.

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Melancholic Time

Greetings and Salutations,

Things just don't like they are going well for me. I sometimes wonder if I'll ever find true happiness.

It seems like I'll never find a place to fit in. I just float along in this universe as a lone partical unable to find some semblance of belonging.

I see people who seem happy with their jobs and their partners. I don't have that. I feel like I'll never have that now. I've been searching for so long. Trying hard for so long. I sometimes think I must have been a really bad person in a past life or something.

What is the point of life if I can never attain happiness?
What is the point of it all if I can never attain my simple desires?

I lead a perpetual unfulfilling life.

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

A New Blog

Greetings and Salutations,

I have decided to keep track of my kettlebell workouts with an online training blog. The address is: Lucid I Kettlebell Training

I have created this as it will be an easy way for me to track my exercise and to make sure that I keep going.

Monday, February 18, 2008

Randomness

Greetings and Salutations,

Today is a new holiday for those in Ontario. It is called Family Day and today I am spending it organizing my accounting for income tax.

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I am still doing my kettlebells and I have lost an inch around my hips (which includes my stomach area).

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I have a potential boyfriend who happens to live in.... England.
I have nicknamed him my English Muffin.
We have been emailing each other since September and have started talking on the phone Boxing Day. We started using Skype after a few calls and we both bought webcams so that we can see each other. We met on Eharmony. I only took out a 6 month subscription which recently ended.

Eharmony asks you various survey questions and sends you matches based on 29 different dimensions of compatibility. My English Muffin, whose real name is Daniel, and I seem fairly compatible and oddly enough use our credit cards the same way. I pay my credit card in full but also if I plan on making some bigger purchases, I will wait until the beginning of the billing cycle so that I end up not paying for it until the following month.

He plans on coming here in the beginning of March. He is only 1 inch taller then me, which may be a turnoff or it may not. I usually like someone to be a few inches taller then me. I don't want to feel like I'm the bigger one in a relationship, which is why I generally find really skinny men unattractive since I am more curvy.

Other physical concerns I have are penis size (it has to at least be the minimum of 6 inches give or take a centimetre...anyone who says size doesn't matter is lying) which will affect the sex. The sex has to be decent. I do believe people can become better in pleasing their partners, but there has to be some skill and some passion involved.
Also I have to smell him. I have mentioned in earlier entries the importance of a guy to smell nice. Everyone has their own personal smell and their own personal smell down there. I have to like how it smells. Down There.

Alright, I am not just a superficial prick, I do have other important things to look out for as well. Forming trust is important so we seem to be communicating openly and well with each other. I am generally not a naive person so I am keeping my eyes open for any potential red flags.

We do talk alot. One of our conversations, actually it was on January 12 and I remember that date since I was planning to go out dancing for my birthday (which was the 13th) we ended up talking on Skype (which my coworker thinks sounds like an STD) for 8 hours. We usually get to chat more on the weekends as there is a 5 hour time difference but usually we will talk once or twice during the week. We frequently email each other so at least we know what each other is up to.

I think it is going well thus far. I probably have more to share but I won't at this point. I look foward to meeting him as I think he is totally hot and I want to jump his bones.

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I have done an open mic night at the Rivoli on February 4. I have another one booked in March and one this week. I'm going to be experimenting and figuring out where I want to go. I feel like comedy is one of my obsessions, I have to take it to the next level. It's very weird for me but I think perhaps something I should try.

I have been rather conflicted about comedy and where does it fit into my life. I hope this year I make some progress, whether comedy is something I should pursue professional or just leave it as a hobby.

Sunday, February 03, 2008

A Feeling of Betrayal

Greetings and Salutations,

I had my birthday on January 13 and decided that I actually wanted to go out and do something. The last time i had some sort of birthday celebration for myself was back in grade 6.

I decided that I wanted to go dancing at a club in Toronto. I invited people using facebook. I didn't expect everyone to show up but did expect a decent turnout.

I had a couple of my friends say they were attending. I ended up cancelling my event because a couple of my friends said they were sick. I wasn't disappointed by my friends because it's not like it was their fault that they were sick.

I felt betrayed by the many other people that didn't show up or RSVP that they were coming. I always thought I was a decent person but I guess people had more important things to do then celebrate my birthday with me. I was pretty upset that day and it wasn't until later on in the evening that I decided to make my way to a club because I didn't want to spend a Saturday night alone because of my 'friends'.

I joined this web site a few weeks ago called meetup.com and fortunately there was a group that I joined where it was a social group for women and that night one of them was going to a dance club. So I RSVPed last minute and went. One of the ladies bought me a drink which I thought was sweet and another lady was there I met her the prior week at a coffee meetup. So I wasn't with complete strangers at least for that night!
I would have preferred to have been with people that cared about me.

I am still bitter about this incident especially since I go and support the social activities of my various friends. I have probably given a more timid version of this story but there is more guts to the story and I choose to omit.

I feel betrayed because I think that you should have expectations for people. I think it's my right to expect that the people I invite should have the courtesy to make an appearance. This incident reaffirms that fact that I truly have very few people that I can count on.

It may not be some people's cup of tea to go dancing but just stopping by would have been nice. Some people are so set in their ways and don't want to break out of their comfort zone and then they wonder why they alienate people. I've gone out of my comfort zone for people many times because I have heart to show that I care even though this is causing me some degree of pain/discomfort.

I am very bitter and I don't think this feeling of betrayal will go away anytime soon. I may have a smile on my face but many people will not see the broken heart that I have.

Wednesday, January 09, 2008

Getting back in to Shape

Greetings and Salutations,

I have written back in June 2006 that I starting using kettlebells to work out. I don't know how long I was using them, at least 6-8 months, but I did stop working out with them. I have decided to get back into them about 2 weeks ago.
I was re-examining why I stopped working out with them. I don't know. Maybe I just didn't want to do them and was lazy.
I have gained a bit of weight and I think it was time to do something about it before it gets out of hand. My main area of concern is my abs. What I like about using the kettlebell is that it will work out my whole body so I don't have to obsess about just working out with my abs.
I am going to keep things simple. There are 2 main exercises that are good for overall cardio conditioning and they are the swing and the snatch. The snatch is a bit difficult but I did manage to learn it pretty good when I first started out. I have decided to make the swing my main focus and then add other exercises such as cleans and presses.
There are so many different exercises to do.
I go to the dragondoor forum (which is where I originally learned about kettlebells) and many people seem motivated to get really strong and for their job (as some are cops or firefighters).
I just want to look good in a bikini with some nice flat abs. I don't need to be totally ripped.
I don't like exercising but this kettlebell seems to be the most efficient thing for me to do and I like being efficient.
I have noticed my abs are looking better and so do my legs. I think I should be up to par in about 1-3 months.

I think I would like to take a workshop at some point since I've done my learning from a dvd.

A test retaken

I took this quiz on December 11, 2006. My seduction style was originally Midas Touch. It now is different.








Tuesday, January 01, 2008

Happy New Year!

Greetings and Salutations,

Today is the beginning of the new year. I've been reflecting on my life this past year. My main highlights were going to Vancouver for a vacation, moving out of the parent's house and being independent and using my ortho c lens to improve my vision and switching to contacts from glasses as my vision slowly improves.

I am looking back and thinking I didn't get to do all the goals I set out for myself. I don't know if it's a combination of not having enough realistic expectations and needing to get over my tendency to procrastinate.

I feel like I am perpetually behind because I am one of those people who 'blooms slower'. I guess we all grow and evolve at different rates but I feel behind because I have moved out on my own at what I perceive to be the old age of 28. Other things that haven't quite worked out for me yet that causes me to feel this way is not having a serious relationship. Lots of people my age have already begun this process of marriage and making babies. And the other annoying task of finding a suitable vocation.

I am generally not a stats fan but I am putting some down because I love numbers and if I think about numerical things, it will help distract my mind from the fact that I am in desperate need of some sex. The average age worldwide for a woman to marry is 26.8 years. In Canada it's 27.4. So I should have been married sometime in 2006 between the months of May and June. (I was born January 13, 1979)

I'm pretty confident, however, that I will attain all of my heart's desires. The big question is how long is it going to take.

I have made significant progress in my qigong practice. I've had several important cathartic moments and have managed to significantly reduce the tension in my neck, head and face. I do not know why I haven't considered my improvements as a highlight of this year, especially since I have been able to initiate spontaneous self movement after 8 months of regular practice even though it normally should take one 3 months of practice. I guess I don't consider it a highlight since I still have more clearing to do in my head area.

My plans for the new year is to go to England, France and Spain. For a while now I have been pondering where I want to go travel next and I had a vision of these 3 countries in a dream and so I decided to make my way this year. I actually went for my passport a few weeks ago and received it a few days ago so now I can legally fly out of this country.

I want to leave my job as well. I've had enough of what I've been doing. I am not sure what to do next. I am not sure if comedy is my true calling or if I should just go back to school.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Cynically prepared for Christmas

Greetings and Salutations,

I have previously mentioned in my posts probably last year around this time how I feel conflicted about Christmas and gift giving.
Well this year I bought some gifts for my immediate family. I really derive little joy or pleasure in getting people gifts. I as well don't really get much out of receiving gifts as well.

I read this book a long time ago entitled "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and I believe this books probably explains why I despise this time of year and the social obligation to buy gifts. According to this book there are five ways people show love and they are through spending quality time with someone,words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. The basic premise of the book is that people largely feel unloved in relationships (whether they are familial, friendships or your companion) because people do not know what their love language is. We also tend to show love to others the way we would like to receive. For example, if we like getting hugs we will show our love to others by giving them hugs even though for the recipient, receiving physical contact is not their primary love language.

So maybe this is why I find buying things so meaningless. I am not someone that feels loved when I get gifts. I associate so many negative things when buying people stuff. First off, I like buying things that someone will enjoy. I am a highly practical person and since I don't like having things I will not use, I do not like getting things for people that they can't use. It would cause me great pain to buy something for someone they will not use that enhances their life in some way. This is also why I am not a knick-knack person. What do you do with a knick-knack? Nothing. They are just things to clean up. In other words, a knick knack is work and I loathe unnecessary work.

There is the stress of having to think of stuff to buy them that they will actually enjoy. I don't even like shopping for myself because it really bothers me to be in stores and to realize how much stuff of it is just useless and a waste of people's time and effort to make these various products. And then I feel bad for the people selling this crap in the store because they have to get rid of the shit.

Our whole economy seems largely driven to make crap and to force people to take crappy jobs so that they can buy this crap. And then they have people that are trained to market this crap, convincing us how we must have this crap to have a good life. And then once people have had this crap for long enough, they throw it out and then we have a whole other industry that deals with how to get rid of the crap we created just for the sake of creating crap.

Crap!

Anyways, for me I like spending quality time with people and hearing words of affirmation. Nothing makes me feel better then knowing someone is listening to what I have to say and respects and pays attention to me. And that they are there for me when I need help.

That's really all I want for Christmas.
Listen and respect me.

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Organized

Greetings and Salutations,

I had purchased some more furnishings for my apartment. I found a tv stand at Zellers a few weeks ago that was on sale but the Zellers in the mall where I work had none in stock so I was given a raincheck. I was over at another Zellers in Hamilton on Saturday and saw that they had some and so the next day I picked it up with my friend and assembled it. I also finished assembling my desk that I bought last week. I have managed to purchase 4 items that require assembly and have for 3 of them successfully assembled them myself. The fourth being the infamous Ikea bookshelf which required the assistance of my parents. Please see earlier blog entry for more details.

I think that I should get a degree in Ready-To-Assemble Furniture.

I also bought a carpet for my bedroom. I ordered it online. I was tired of looking for one in stores since I was not finding what I was looking for. I managed to find one and this is what it looks like
this.

I also have a new roommate. She moved in on the last weekend of October. We are getting along so far. She has a small dog named Bosley. He is a Yorkie Poo. He got shaved as his fur gets rather matted so he needs a regular shaving. I think he looks better with short fur. My roommate and I and some of her co-worker friends, went out dancing on Friday night. We went to some club that had over 30 singles dance. We were all under 30. They let us in. I think we were the only ones in there that was dancing with beer in our hands. There was alot of old people there. They probably realized that getting drunk doesn't help them get laid as alcohol affects sexual performance. They probably know this from experience and probably looked at us as young punks since we were actually there to dance and were not desperate to get laid.

Friday, November 09, 2007

My Experience with Ortho C - Part 3

Greetings and Salutations,

I got a new lens for my right eye back on October 21. My vision has improved another 0.25 diopter. I was told by Mr. Yee to start wearing my Ortho C lens one eye at a time instead of wearing them both at the same time. I believe he told me to follow this method for wearing them because my one eye is more dominant then the other. Usually everyone has a dominant eye but I used to have a lazy left eye which resulted in me having eye surgery to correct it when I was 2. So I am highly dominant in my right eye.

My right eye always used to be the one that didn't have the stronger prescription but since my early 20s, my right eye now has become the eye that has the stronger prescription.

I also ordered a pair of blue opaque contact lens to wear for regular use. I am currently just wearing clear ones. Next week I will hopefully have blue eyes. I always wanted blue eyes. When I was in high school, I debated over whether to get blue eyes or stick with my dark brown eyes. I went with clear contacts to show my natural eye colour because I thought wearing blue eyes would be like being fake and deceiving. Imagine dating someone whose eyes you were so captivated by only to realize that they were fake. It seemed to me like a form of deceiving. I believed if the eyes were the window to the soul, then I would be pretending to be someone I am not by having blue eyes.

But now that I am older, I decided I'd try them out to see what they would look like on me. And since my lens are only good for 2 weeks, it's not a major commitment. When I was in high school, I usually bought contacts that were for more long term wear so I can understand why I wouldn't want to change my eyes.

My mother doesn't like my idea but I think it will be fun.

Monday, November 05, 2007

On the Duty of Civil Disobedience - An article by Henry David Thoreau

I copied this from a website that I regularly read. The link is here.

On the Duty of Civil Disobedience


Henry David Thoreau

This American government--what is it but a tradition, though a recent one, endeavoring to transmit itself unimpaired to posterity, but each instant losing some of its integrity? It has not the vitality and force of a single living man; for a single man can bend it to his will. It is a sort of wooden gun to the people themselves. But it is not the less necessary for this; for the people must have some complicated machinery or other, and hear its din, to satisfy that idea of government which they have. Governments show thus how successfully men can be imposed upon, even impose on themselves, for their own advantage. It is excellent, we must all allow. Yet this government never of itself furthered any enterprise, but by the alacrity with which it got out of its way. It does not keep the country free. It does not settle the West. It does not educate. The character inherent in the American people has done all that has been accomplished; and it would have done somewhat more, if the government had not sometimes got in its way.

But, to speak practically and as a citizen, unlike those who call themselves no-government men, I ask for, not at once no government, but at once a better government.

After all, the practical reason why, when the power is once in the hands of the people, a majority are permitted, and for a long period continue, to rule is not because they are most likely to be in the right, nor because this seems fairest to the minority, but because they are physically the strongest. But a government in which the majority rules in all cases can not be based on justice, even as far as men understand it. Can there not be a government in which the majorities do not virtually decide right and wrong, but conscience?--in which majorities decide only those questions to which the rule of expediency is applicable? Must the citizen ever for a moment, or in the least degree, resign his conscience to the legislator? Why has every man a conscience then? I think that we should be men first, and subjects afterward. It is not desirable to cultivate a respect for the law, so much as for the right. The only obligation which I have a right to assume is to do at any time what I think right. It is truly enough said that a corporation has no conscience; but a corporation of conscientious men is a corporation with a conscience. Law never made men a whit more just; and, by means of their respect for it, even the well-disposed are daily made the agents on injustice. A common and natural result of an undue respect for the law is, that you may see a file of soldiers, colonel, captain, corporal, privates, powder-monkeys and all, marching in admirable order over hill and dale to the wars, against their wills, ay, against their common sense and consciences, which makes it very steep marching indeed, and produces a palpitation of the heart. They have no doubt that it is a damnable business in which they are concerned; they are all peaceably inclined. Now, what are they? Men at all? or small movable forts and magazines, at the service of some unscrupulous man in power? Visit the Navy Yard, and behold a marine, such a man as an American government can make, or such as it can make a man with its black arts--a mere shadow and reminiscence of humanity, a man laid out alive and standing, and already, as one may say, buried under arms with funeral accompaniment…

The mass of men serve the state thus, not as men mainly, but as machines, with their bodies. They are the standing army, and the militia, jailers, constables, posse comitatus, etc. In most cases there is no free exercise whatever of the judgement or of the moral sense; but they put themselves on a level with wood and earth and stones; and wooden men can perhaps be manufactured that will serve the purpose as well. Such command no more respect than men of straw or a lump of dirt. They have the same sort of worth only as horses and dogs.

How does it become a man to behave toward the American government today? I answer, that he cannot without disgrace be associated with it. I cannot for an instant recognize that political organization as my government which is the slave's government also.

All men recognize the right of revolution; that is, the right to refuse allegiance to, and to resist, the government, when its tyranny or its inefficiency are great and unendurable. But almost all say that such is not the case now. But such was the case, they think, in the Revolution of 1775. If one were to tell me that this was a bad government because it taxed certain foreign commodities brought to its ports, it is most probable that I should not make an ado about it, for I can do without them. All machines have their friction; and possibly this does enough good to counter-balance the evil. At any rate, it is a great evil to make a stir about it. But when the friction comes to have its machine, and oppression and robbery are organized, I say, let us not have such a machine any longer. In other words, when a sixth of the population of a nation which has undertaken to be the refuge of liberty are slaves, and a whole country is unjustly overrun and conquered by a foreign army, and subjected to military law, I think that it is not too soon for honest men to rebel and revolutionize. What makes this duty the more urgent is that fact that the country so overrun is not our own, but ours is the invading army.

There are thousands who are in opinion opposed to slavery and to the war, who yet in effect do nothing to put an end to them; who, esteeming themselves children of Washington and Franklin, sit down with their hands in their pockets, and say that they know not what to do, and do nothing; who even postpone the question of freedom to the question of free trade, and quietly read the prices-current along with the latest advices from Mexico, after dinner, and, it may be, fall asleep over them both. What is the price-current of an honest man and patriot today? They hesitate, and they regret, and sometimes they petition; but they do nothing in earnest and with effect. They will wait, well disposed, for other to remedy the evil, that they may no longer have it to regret.

I hear of a convention to be held at Baltimore, or elsewhere, for the selection of a candidate for the Presidency, made up chiefly of editors, and men who are politicians by profession; but I think, what is it to any independent, intelligent, and respectable man what decision they may come to? Shall we not have the advantage of this wisdom and honesty, nevertheless? Can we not count upon some independent votes? Are there not many individuals in the country who do not attend conventions? But no: I find that the respectable man, so called, has immediately drifted from his position, and despairs of his country, when his country has more reasons to despair of him. He forthwith adopts one of the candidates thus selected as the only available one, thus proving that he is himself available for any purposes of the demagogue. His vote is of no more worth than that of any unprincipled foreigner or hireling native, who may have been bought.

The broadest and most prevalent error requires the most disinterested virtue to sustain it. The slight reproach to which the virtue of patriotism is commonly liable, the noble are most likely to incur. Those who, while they disapprove of the character and measures of a government, yield to it their allegiance and support are undoubtedly its most conscientious supporters, and so frequently the most serious obstacles to reform.

Unjust laws exist: shall we be content to obey them, or shall we endeavor to amend them, and obey them until we have succeeded, or shall we transgress them at once? Men, generally, under such a government as this, think that they ought to wait until they have persuaded the majority to alter them. They think that, if they should resist, the remedy would be worse than the evil.

If the injustice is part of the necessary friction of the machine of government, let it go, let it go: perchance it will wear smooth--certainly the machine will wear out. If the injustice has a spring, or a pulley, or a rope, or a crank, exclusively for itself, then perhaps you may consider whether the remedy will not be worse than the evil; but if it is of such a nature that it requires you to be the agent of injustice to another, then I say, break the law. Let your life be a counter-friction to stop the machine. What I have to do is to see, at any rate, that I do not lend myself to the wrong which I condemn.

Under a government which imprisons unjustly, the true place for a just man is also a prison. The proper place today, the only place which Massachusetts has provided for her freer and less despondent spirits, is in her prisons….

"But what shall I do?" my answer is, "If you really wish to do anything, resign your office." When the subject has refused allegiance, and the officer has resigned from office, then the revolution is accomplished.

I do not wish to quarrel with any man or nation. I do not wish to split hairs, to make fine distinctions, or set myself up as better than my neighbors. I seek rather, I may say, even an excuse for conforming to the laws of the land. I am but too ready to conform to them. Indeed, I have reason to suspect myself on this head; and each year, as the tax-gatherer comes round, I find myself disposed to review the acts and position of the general and State governments, and the spirit of the people to discover a pretext for conformity.

Even the Chinese philosopher was wise enough to regard the individual as the basis of the empire. Is a democracy, such as we know it, the last improvement possible in government? Is it not possible to take a step further towards recognizing and organizing the rights of man? There will never be a really free and enlightened State until the State comes to recognize the individual as a higher and independent power, from which all its own power and authority are derived, and treats him accordingly. I please myself with imagining a State at last which can afford to be just to all men, and to treat the individual with respect as a neighbor; which even would not think it inconsistent with its own repose if a few were to live aloof from it, not meddling with it, nor embraced by it, who fulfilled all the duties of neighbors and fellow men. A State which bore this kind of fruit, and suffered it to drop off as fast as it ripened, would prepare the way for a still more perfect and glorious State, which I have also imagined, but not yet anywhere seen.