Greetings all,
I did a meetup recently where we went out for ramen, which is basically Japanese soup. I found one place online that was fairly new in the city and from the review looked like a cool place. We had a good time but when I asked for separate bills in the beginning they said they didn't do that. There was 9 of us so by the time the bill came, it was a nightmare calculating it because it took so long and people had to wait until others were done calculating their amount. It almost worked out but we were short $10 and we figured because one guy who just stepped out to pay his parking was probably short because he didn't factor in the taxes for his alcohol.
I think I felt embarrassed because I want things to go smoothly and I think everyone was enjoying themselves but then we have to deal with the stress of figuring out what we owe. It took away from the experience in my eyes. We went to a bakery nearby where we had coffee and we got to pay separately so the night ended on a positive note.
I thought about what I could do as an organizer and thought should I be calculating people's bills separately? I will be the one responsible if there is a shortage and I have to take charge since it's my group. I talked about it with a friend and it seems other organizer just don't go to restaurants where they do not do separate billing. I think I will do that from now on. The bill is definitely the finishing touch on the night and if it is stressful, it ruins the night and people do feel resentful if they pay extra, even if it is a small amount. I do not want to fund someone's fun, especially if I don't have much money to begin with and also don't order a lot.
As far as I am concerned, I am sick of these restaurants that don't do separate billing. To me it's part of the experience of dining out and to have the customer have to figure out what they owe just makes it stressful when they should be the one doing the heavy lifting.
Restaurant owner and wait staff, hear out this message. You are here to serve your customers and give them the best dining experience. Your job is to make our lives easier. That is why we come out to eat at your establishment. If you choose to not do separate billing, people like me will no longer want to dine at your establishment. You are in the service industry so provide a service and do not do a half assed job. Being able to get separate checks is part of the service that we receive at your restaurant and wanting separate bills is really not an unreasonable request.
Thanks!
Sunday, April 28, 2013
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Project Blonde
Greetings all,
For the past few years I have been wanting be blonde. I never really did much with my hair, namely for 2 reasons. The first being the cost and the second being the regular maintenance of getting your hair done, which basically boils down to cost. I decided this year that my goal will be to get my hair blonde.
Now I have really dark brown hair so I went to my hairdresser and told her that I wanted to look like a natural blonde. I contemplated doing my hair by myself at home but I didn't want to risk it in case I did a bad job at it. My hairdresser had to do foils twice on my head. I went in January and then again in March. I thought the process was strange because she didn't bleach my whole hair because when I got home, I noticed I still had a lot of dark hair left. I don't know what the standard procedure was for making a brunette a blonde, but foils are basically the process of highlighting the hair and this wasn't quite the look I was going for.
So today I decided to go to one of those Hairdressing schools because they offer hair services at a discount because students are working on your hair. I told them what I wanted and I was there for over 3 hours because they were basically sifting through my hair, weaving out the dark hair pieces and highlighting them. I was so bored but the 2 girls working on my hair didn't really talk to me. I am a fan of Tabatha's Salon Takeover and they basically did a terrible job in the Customer Service department because I basically felt ignored and it would have been nice if they made some conversation with me but they seemed more focused on doing the work. That's great and all but part of being a hair dresser is also being able to converse with the client.
At the end, the one girl was taking forever to blow dry my hair and by that point I was starting to get antsy because I didn't have lunch and I just wanted to get out there and eat. The irony is that it was raining outside and I didn't have an umbrella so my hair got a bit wet from the rain.
The other students there seemed like idiots half the time. At one point this girl next to us was gossiping about how she is no longer friends with some people but was cussing about them and saying how she wanted to punch them out. Most of the students also didn't seem very busy. Some had clients but if you didn't have a client, you had a mannequin's head to work on and I saw a lot of them just standing around doing a whole lot of nothing. I wanted to go Tabatha on their asses but I was not impressed with the students. Where was their passion for their job?
I did wonder if I was better off doing my hair by myself because it just seemed like it took forever to finally have my hair light enough where I could pass as a blonde. I do wonder if my hairdresser was doing the job properly.
I do like my hair though and I think it makes my brown eyes pop out more. Now my other goal for this year is to get a motorcycle license so I can drive a scooter.
For the past few years I have been wanting be blonde. I never really did much with my hair, namely for 2 reasons. The first being the cost and the second being the regular maintenance of getting your hair done, which basically boils down to cost. I decided this year that my goal will be to get my hair blonde.
Now I have really dark brown hair so I went to my hairdresser and told her that I wanted to look like a natural blonde. I contemplated doing my hair by myself at home but I didn't want to risk it in case I did a bad job at it. My hairdresser had to do foils twice on my head. I went in January and then again in March. I thought the process was strange because she didn't bleach my whole hair because when I got home, I noticed I still had a lot of dark hair left. I don't know what the standard procedure was for making a brunette a blonde, but foils are basically the process of highlighting the hair and this wasn't quite the look I was going for.
So today I decided to go to one of those Hairdressing schools because they offer hair services at a discount because students are working on your hair. I told them what I wanted and I was there for over 3 hours because they were basically sifting through my hair, weaving out the dark hair pieces and highlighting them. I was so bored but the 2 girls working on my hair didn't really talk to me. I am a fan of Tabatha's Salon Takeover and they basically did a terrible job in the Customer Service department because I basically felt ignored and it would have been nice if they made some conversation with me but they seemed more focused on doing the work. That's great and all but part of being a hair dresser is also being able to converse with the client.
At the end, the one girl was taking forever to blow dry my hair and by that point I was starting to get antsy because I didn't have lunch and I just wanted to get out there and eat. The irony is that it was raining outside and I didn't have an umbrella so my hair got a bit wet from the rain.
The other students there seemed like idiots half the time. At one point this girl next to us was gossiping about how she is no longer friends with some people but was cussing about them and saying how she wanted to punch them out. Most of the students also didn't seem very busy. Some had clients but if you didn't have a client, you had a mannequin's head to work on and I saw a lot of them just standing around doing a whole lot of nothing. I wanted to go Tabatha on their asses but I was not impressed with the students. Where was their passion for their job?
I did wonder if I was better off doing my hair by myself because it just seemed like it took forever to finally have my hair light enough where I could pass as a blonde. I do wonder if my hairdresser was doing the job properly.
I do like my hair though and I think it makes my brown eyes pop out more. Now my other goal for this year is to get a motorcycle license so I can drive a scooter.
Monday, April 01, 2013
Finding the Right Man
Greetings all,
I also like to read Evan Marc Katz's blog and one of his recent entries was on why he does his blog. He said his advice usually falls into one of two cateogories:
1. Dump him
2. Accept him
He was commenting that women love the 'dump him' advice but tend to have a hard time dealing with the accepting part. I think for me, I probably feel the same way. It is easier to just dump someone but obviously in real life we learn to accept people in situations that we don't control. If I am at work and have a coworker that is annoying but the rest are great, I learn to accept them because finding a job might be harder.
I think for me at least I still feel like I have tried to accept a man and 'make it work' but sometimes it's too much work and not worth it because I don't see him making the effort. I know for me I am not going to put effort into something if I don't see the other is doing the same.
I think for me that is why I am more then happy to dump someone but I think it's a simple way to treat men you date or are in relationship with. Accept or Dump.
It's certainly seems like a fine line between when to accept someone and when to dump them. I've had a couple of guys I was involved with that I thought could be the right man for me but that didn't work out so it does make me question myself and what I think I know. I always thought I would know if I am with the right man but now I don't know how I would know.
I think with my last boyfriend, I had a hard time accepting the fact that he looks older. I am in my mid 30s and he was only 12 years older but he had all white hair (like Steve Martin) but was only 12 years my senior (same age as my oldest brother). I found him attractive but a part of me had a hard time with it because I look like I am in my mid 20s and he in his 50s as a result of the white hair and I felt self conscious that others would think he was a sugar daddy or that there was a bigger age gap then there was. So kissing him in public was not something I was comfortable with. If he looked younger, I probably would be more affectionate in public.
I didn't dump him for that but that was something that was hard for me to accept. Maybe it played a bigger role in me ending things that I may not be aware of but I know for me I wanted to get married and have children and not sure if he wanted to go through with that since he had been married and has a son whom was very aloof towards me and also made me feel like he didn't like me.
While I agree with the Accept or Dump mentality, I do feel some things are just not so easy to accept and not so easy to reject. I think these shades of grey area are what causes problems for women and men in general. I guess we have to really focus on how we feel and what is important because we either have to find the strength to move on or have the openness to let go and accept.
I also like to read Evan Marc Katz's blog and one of his recent entries was on why he does his blog. He said his advice usually falls into one of two cateogories:
1. Dump him
2. Accept him
He was commenting that women love the 'dump him' advice but tend to have a hard time dealing with the accepting part. I think for me, I probably feel the same way. It is easier to just dump someone but obviously in real life we learn to accept people in situations that we don't control. If I am at work and have a coworker that is annoying but the rest are great, I learn to accept them because finding a job might be harder.
I think for me at least I still feel like I have tried to accept a man and 'make it work' but sometimes it's too much work and not worth it because I don't see him making the effort. I know for me I am not going to put effort into something if I don't see the other is doing the same.
I think for me that is why I am more then happy to dump someone but I think it's a simple way to treat men you date or are in relationship with. Accept or Dump.
It's certainly seems like a fine line between when to accept someone and when to dump them. I've had a couple of guys I was involved with that I thought could be the right man for me but that didn't work out so it does make me question myself and what I think I know. I always thought I would know if I am with the right man but now I don't know how I would know.
I think with my last boyfriend, I had a hard time accepting the fact that he looks older. I am in my mid 30s and he was only 12 years older but he had all white hair (like Steve Martin) but was only 12 years my senior (same age as my oldest brother). I found him attractive but a part of me had a hard time with it because I look like I am in my mid 20s and he in his 50s as a result of the white hair and I felt self conscious that others would think he was a sugar daddy or that there was a bigger age gap then there was. So kissing him in public was not something I was comfortable with. If he looked younger, I probably would be more affectionate in public.
I didn't dump him for that but that was something that was hard for me to accept. Maybe it played a bigger role in me ending things that I may not be aware of but I know for me I wanted to get married and have children and not sure if he wanted to go through with that since he had been married and has a son whom was very aloof towards me and also made me feel like he didn't like me.
While I agree with the Accept or Dump mentality, I do feel some things are just not so easy to accept and not so easy to reject. I think these shades of grey area are what causes problems for women and men in general. I guess we have to really focus on how we feel and what is important because we either have to find the strength to move on or have the openness to let go and accept.
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